-: Bob Woolmer: missing demarcation between profession and possession:-

Full Name: Robert Andrew Woolmer
Nickname: Bob
Date Of Birth: 14 May 1948
Place of birth: Kanpur, Uttar Pradesh
Country: India
Batting Style: Right-hand bat
Bowling Style: Right-arm medium
Teams: England, Kent, Natal, Western Province
ODI Debut: Against Australia at Old Trafford on 24-08
Test Debut: Against Australia at Lord’s on 31-07-1975

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Test Debut: England v Australia at Lord’s – Jul 31-Aug 5, 1975 
Last Test: England v Australia at Lord’s – Jul 2-7, 1981 
First-Class Span: 1968 – 1984
List A Plan: 1969 – 1983

* All the above facts taken from BobWoolmer.com

           Bob Woolmer dies; when I heard the same news then I was really moved from inside. It was unexpected, completely unexpected to anyone. Yes!!! It was one of worse show of Pakistan in the world cup, a bit more thrashed than it was being expected in the absence of its speedsters Shoaib Akhtar and party.

It was just two days back, when I come to read in Times of India a comment about Bob Woolmer from a ‘well informed source’ that “As far as coach Bob Woolmer is concerned, he is more interested in his columns and diaries for a website and improving his public relations in the cricket fraternity. He apparently has lost communication channels with the captain and many of the players and is just counting his day before his contract expires in June”. Truly speaking, I was not shocked with such a quote from Pakistan side as few of us might be thinking similar things about Greg Chappell, if any of such show came from Indian side. But as I was knowing that he was the man behind longest chain of success of South Africa; 21 tests out of 44, 10 test series out of 15, 83 one days matches victory out of 111, so I decided to collect few information about him and Greg Chappell and to write an article over the topic that why foreigner coaches fails to make an impact in this part of the world, even after their impressive records in past. But I was having no clue that my article will never get a shape and things will move into just another ways.

Before discussing anything around this tragedy, I thought to place many facts from Bob’s life in a collective manner.

Bob Woolmer (1948-2007), born in Kanpur, India, although each cricket lover from India felt pain even if was not knowing the same. The man came in light, when at September 3, 1975, he scored a 149 (495-minute) in only his second Test, at the Oval and that too against the leading bowlers of that time like Dennis Lily, to save the game against Australia, this knock made him one of the five Wisden Cricketers of the Year 1976, probably, the highlight of his career, which ended in 1984, but the same highlighted his will power and learning abilities as even after adding a few good knocks in his count, people were looking over him as a bowler rather than a complete all rounder.

The Coaching career started with Warwickshire in 1991 and in 1994, they come out to win three out of four trophies, and are runners-up in the NatWest Trophy, with Woolmer as coach. Afterward, he created the history as South African Coach (1994-1999). I heard his name for the first time, when he came in news as cameras caught him conversing with Captain Hansie Cronje through an earpiece when South Africa took the field against India and few eyebrows were raised that should Cricket must be professionalized to this much extent that it may loose its natural spirit? But this controversy started the era of laptop coaches, probably a trend that Bob must be credited to start with him.

One interesting fact is that he has been ICC’s High Performance Manager in 2001, working towards the development of the game among the Associate countries, helping them compete in the 2003 World Cup and Irish were one of them, who got tips from the man himself. Who knew then that Woolmer will face them in this way again. I have read few of tragedies in the history of cricket earlier, but I myself saw only one matching tragedy and unfortunately the same was linked with Bob himself, the death of Hansie Cronje; one of the most beloved man for him as with him, he shared his best coaching days.

I was not able to find better words than the few cricinfo.com suggested “The price of passion”. Yes!!! It was like someone coming to run even after having a 104˚ temperature, handling a bit lesser professional part of the cricket world. A part of the world, where cricketers feel scared after coming back to home after drastic losses; a part of world, where cricketers ask for the security, not to keep away the fan crowd but to actually save them and their families. People from India, who might have came out to cry over the tragedy, how they could forget that just one day before we have noticed the news of angry mobs attacking Mahendra Singh Dhoni’s under construction house.

What were the reasons behind the tragedy? I am not sure that we will ever come to know all the facts, but what the amount of pressure over the man might be, is very easy to guess for anyone of us. But even then predicting a suicide is really one of the worst guess. According to Inzamam “After the game yesterday, he went to all the boys and cheered them up. He told them that these things happen in life. That was his greatest quality. Even in the bad times, he would think positive.” May he go this much negative? Yes!!! It is true that the pressures of coaching Pakistan were immense, something Woolmer himself often admitted. Speaking to reporters in the immediate aftermath of the defeat by Ireland, he said: “Doing it internationally, it takes a toll on you … the endless travelling and the non-stop living out of hotels.” But I am not able to find any sign of this much negative feeling that may cost someone’s life.

Someone very devoted for his job, so creative and adventurous that one could easily guess, how much painful this moment was for himself, coming out with the tag of an unsuccessful coach with a real worse ever show in his life. But instances of his positive attitude will never let us believe that it was result of stress and negative feeling. After the shocking death of Bob Woolmer, talks about conspiracy theories will be floating in the air, but without any official statement, we will not be confirmed that what actually happened behind the scene.

No one from the family of Bob is traveling to Caribbean, but Murray Stevenson, the team’s South African trainer, will be at the University Hospital while the post-mortem is performed on Tuesday morning, though it’s unclear as to whether the results will be publicized without the consent of the Woolmer family. Till yet, we only heard about a story published in Daily mirror quoting that it might be an overdose of drugs to avoid stress and few health problems that might have caused his death.

None of us were expecting, such a start from World Cup and the few upsets were nothing in comparison to the end of an era with Mr. Cricket (as one of the leading commentator quoted). I should say that I found international media behaving much responsibly in this regard, but like the death of Hansie Cronje, this tragedy again is ready to leave many unanswered questions. Will we get answers this time or everything will go behind the happenings in the mega event?

Note: This draft was prepared before the news about the death being suspicious being confirmed officially. But I tried to not letting me influenced with the same and rather concentrating it out of conspiracy theories. But later you could expect an article over conspiracy theories around his upcoming book which is in final stages according to her wife….


Nishabd; Nothing to say….

-: Nishabd :-

Before even watching the movie, I was curious about the same. Why? Your question. Why shouldn’t I? My counter question …. Everyone was sharing the same curiosity about the story line, even those, who might have read and saw the movie version of its predecessor Lolita. Don’t jump over any conclusion, I am not comparing or saying that it’s a remake of Lolita or does have any similarity with that. But the same was in air before its actual release. But I found it different, in fact, very different from that from the very first few scenes. Although the one, I saw was a pirated release means I must be excused, if I am missing something that was having reasons to be mentioned in the review as I got many parts missing in the movie. So, you could wait for my modified review sometime later.

        Title: Nishabd; Nothing to say….

        Star Cast: Amitabh Bachchan, Ziah Khan, Aftab Shivdasani
Director: Ram Gopal Verma         Genre: Intense, silent.

For me a movie is not a story, but it’s the traits of different colored characters and so I never wished to write a review with mentioning the whole story and touching moments. I feel my reviews having a rather different feel as it try to touch the part seemed to be not approached. So, the story is simple as you heard, a much elder man and a girl of his daughter’s age admit their affections towards each other and consequently up and down melancholy and finally the silence moves in to end all … asking that what it was and why someone was wrong?

It’s a total Ziah Khan’s story. A girl’s story and everyone else is just a spectator Ziah Khan: Simply unpredictable; that’s what Vijay thought, that’s what Zia wanted to be, love to be, that’s what everyone of us saw, that’s what one loves, when he/ she just above or fed off from the physical attractions/ affections. Same to Vijay and Same to Jia …. That’s what, which created the bond. But who was Ziah?

“I am, what I am; not what you want to see, if I wasn’t as I am, then what would I be? What twist and turns, do you think I make to your eyes, so better get used to it and take light.”

Do these words say everything? A girl grew with a divorcee hearing all the complaints against a man. She feels herself convinced that his father was a person, she should hate but she must obviously be fed of her sure emotional mother too. Probably might have asked few questions from himself, but he kept himself laughing out all the critical rather than being descriptive about the instances in contrast with her mother.

Question to her mind???? There must be some reasons with the man, why would one like to be insane? She feels that somewhere her mother was not right, but …. Somehow she hates to be like her mother, to be like a typical girl. Why a girl wants to dissolves herself with someone to an extent that she couldn’t think about her own identity? She don’t know that she is intelligent or not but wanted to be, wanted to feel like being. Throwing sharp looking catching lines and twisting the words at every next moment, expression to puzzle everyone. She wanted to be a mystery girl dominating over others in thoughts as being unpredictable is her only own trait, otherwise she feels herself so common, and so she wants to keep it.

Who was Jia?? You too have seen her. When she says she likes nothing, when she says to Ritu about Vijay that he is 11400 times better than the SAAS-BAHU serial, you were watching, When she started crying after falling down with the camera, when she says that she writes for herself, when she went angry over Vijay after herself almost causing a road accident, when at the end, she says that she is not “A poor and helpless creature” and knows how to do everything on her own.

A girl, fed up of her boyfriend because of his protecting manhood. She feeling herself being like her mother and she just don’t want to be like that in any way. Who said she is “a helpless creature”, then why she said so at the end? Own inferiority complex. Don’t you think that she was so predictable, if you really try to see through?

It was not Vijay, who impressed her, but there were a few words and promptness with which Vijay was able to catch her ‘mind blowing’ (according to her thought) picks. She always thought that she is able to come out of everything in just a moment, so it was nothing risky/ emotional for her being involved or admitting something such, that she finds her partner is an age old one.

When she says to Vijay that she love him, then it was not the admittance of the fact, but was the curiosity to look for the reaction and things might be having another turn. She says that “I will not go anywhere, I love you” and the silence prompted her to say again that “Didn’t you heard? I love you” and then finally “I didn’t said that I like you, but I said that I love you”. It was not propose, it was not the same as it seemed to look like. It was a trait of ‘Ms. Wishing to be unpredictable’; this was days earlier thought to place some day to say the same. She felt like stumped when didn’t get a matching word even after using her best shot.

I was deeply impressed with her eyes and also Director’s touch in the scene as she succeeded to show the same traits of the plot on the screen. Coming close with all her magnetic attraction and winning again over someone’s spirit in those moments, she was always aware of her charms but this victory given her the domination, she was longing for (Of course, Rishi; the another boy in scene was not able to give her the same feel). She was wishing for her own space and was wishing that someone unique and intelligent in her eyes may find her unpredictable).

I don’t want to take credits of Amitabh Bachchan. He was unbeatable, when two droplets of tears ran out from his eyes and he said “Nahi” two times and then silence. This was Nishabd. The name, the theme, the plot, the story, the reality …. The movie….. A lot to say about Vijay’s character and emotions but it was rather more clear, as he was trying to say the story in his own words, even if not knowing his all emotions, so I am leaving the part. Better to think from your side. Writers and Photographers are two species, who live in their own panorama and age doesn’t matter for them as they live in their own world. He just was a side to receive with surprises

But I would like to rather call it as a Ziah Khan’s show, as she was outstanding and I never felt that she is missing her part. Besides of the warmth beneath of her fresh looks, the glamour of those stunning long legs, what lead the show from her part is her eyes. Eyes; full of curiosity, wishing to search all the unknowns, eyes; having power to take over anyone. Like someone else wrote in her blog, I too wish to say that after Kangana debut with Gangster, now I am deeply impressed with this girl and could say that she is much more capable than Kangana and definitely the whole industry is looking for such a fresh air.

If you need a reason to watch the movie, then only her eyes are sufficient to drag you in. She speaks like short sparkles but her eyes talk even much more loudly with all the silence in air …. NISHABD,,,,,,,,,,,,

Jaaneman: Don’t let the silence ruin your relationship ….

        Jaaneman: Don’t let the silence ruin your relationship …. even if it seems that you lost everything, close your eyes, give a smiling touch to your voice and speak up again to him or to her, the simple words “Let’s Fall In Love Again”.

Probably, I was not able to think anything else beyond the underlined message. The message; that great Gulzar Saheb’s words say in his way:

        Hamako Malum Hai, Ishq Massom Hai, Dil Se Ho jati Hai Galatiyan,

        Sabra Se Ishq Mahroom Hai …


        Doesn’t matter, whether the similar stories might have got their ways for the audiences earliar; doesn’t matter, whether there might be a lot of if’s and but’s that could have been better about the presentations, but denying it from getting its part of credit for being stood up as outstanding in its era, is something that will be some kind of insensitivity. A lot of places, where you may find similarities between the story and yours …. A lot of places, where you may find it more close to reality than the pictorial edition. Say thanks to the Director, Gulzaar Saheb and the Amazing Trio; Salmaan Khan, Anupam Kher and Akshay Kumar, who made the treatment very unique and surprizingly lighter than being full of emotions. It will amaze you that how a tough story binds you smiling and laughing with all the stupid-n-filmy things going on the screen (In Salmaan’s typical ways), even then crying from inside. Probably, when tears come out while laughing then you get to know, you have a heart, which still ready loose all the practical things aside.


        Sometime people complaint that my reviews start from a distant place-n-Time rather than being to the point, I have reasons to do the same but even then trying to be a bit simple and traditional. Let’s start in formal ways:


        Title: Jaaneman; Let’s Fall In Love Again ….

        Star Cast: Salmaan Khan, Preety Zinta, Akshay Khanna, Anupam Kher. (Salmaan&Akshay my all time favourites)

        Director: Shirish Kunder (Interestingly making his debut in impressive ways)

        Lyrics: Gulzaar Saheb (Have not enough words to praise such a big icon)

        Genre: Comedy, Romance (Although it doesn’t make your romantic moments liven up again, but remind your feelings)


        Sohaan (Salmaan Khan); An actor, who want to be a star and has confidence to get it, but the same leading to make him a kind of day dreamer. His funny line giving an insight of his feeling, “not a star, I am super star”. The same is so important for him that he missed to feel the things from all other sides. But as a person, he is some kind of hunk with admiring attitude and confident-n-Stylish in using magic spell of charm with personality and words. Agastya (Akshay Kumar) started the introduction with the words that “He was a total freek”.  Agastya, an Astronaught, a kind of book worm in his study days that leaded to make him an achiever in scientific fields but landed on a ground with a low confidence in communication of topics other than technical. The link to bind these two contrast personalities; Priya (Preety Zinta), Agastya was a secret admirer of her from College days and Sohaan; then Boyfriend, later Husband and now Ex-Husband. A common girl falling over Hunks means wishing to have a boyfriend that might be able to impress her circle, give feeling of being secured in all the ways and could give her feel of being proud over him.


        Now, the story starts from space, where Agastya in a satelite is telling all the story to a girl (someone not from India) at Sohaan’s birthday. Story goes into flashback, when Salmaan was dreaming about being even greater than Amit Ji, Dharmendra and others, got a call from his Uncle-cum-Friend Bony; Anupam Kher, in later part Anupam Kher is playing another role in the same movie means a double role for him. As he himself said once “Pata Nahin Kya Soch ke Mere Maa-Baap ne mera naam ek dum meri personality to match karta hua rakh diya hai”, yes he is a real Bauna having a height of about 4 feets. He is an advocate for Sohaan. Still unmarried and very sensitive about his being a ‘Bauna’.


        So, these are the main characters; not going into the later part of stiry as it is better to see it rather than reading mine. But in short, affections leading to a premature marriage and then misunderstandings leading to a divorce. After getting legal notice to pay the money to Priya, Sohaan has only way, to kick out the burden anyhow, even if it require to make his ex-wife to fall in love with someone so boring and unimpressive. Sohaan tried to make Agastya move into her life, so that he might be saved from giving the money and in that process he was going fine as after giving Agastya same posture like himself, Agastya and Priya were reached to the day of engagement in front of all the family. The money was running fine in making a person too mean, but at the end love wins and after watching his own daughter, Salmaan realizes all the things, feels mature and want to fall in love again, but tried to sacrifice for sake of someone, he realizes now that he always loved. No, no, no … don’t think that the climex will take any other turn in 21st Century, its the same as it was always.


        A story which has been told many times earliar but it’s the way, the story has been told that makes this film worth a watch. You will find many instances, scenes, where you will be amazed that how could even most sensitive emotions might be given a humorus touch (it does not pinch even if seemed to be horribally artificial, specially Sohaan’s side). Fundamentalists might be left with saying that somewhere the typical Bollywood Style seems to insulting the true emotions and the treatment is a bit worse to the typical emotional story. But everyone might be agreed upon that it’s really amazing that how could you keep the story moving in funny way, even then touchy and emotional. A typical Indian drama ……

        Shirish tried to make a good mixture of fantasy and reality together in an impressive innovative and specially technical way, using visual images as metaphors. Scenes in which lights, ambience and background sets change in split seconds, without any cut in the shot. Songs in a very new, soft-n-fresh way, that takes the story forward and always in sync with the story and mood. Baground Music to connect different strands of the story. I am not saying its an outstanding Coreography, but it has a fresh look.  Sure, cheers to multi-facet talent of the Director . He is the writer, editor and director of the film. Not just this, he is also credited for the background music. Interesting na …. Despite Kunder’s multi-talent, the movie could not have been the same without commendable performances by Salman Khan-n-Anupam Kher (Taking the light ways, with an outstanding Salmaan), Akshay Kumar (who could forget his innovative he he he …. and consistency in the inner character, well played) and Preity Zinta (Simple girl like she was in KANK, sorry but there was not much on her part).


        Why to watch it??? If you are still with questions with your relations remained in your mind that should you take the initiative in your relation to break the ice, then Jaaneman is worth to watch. JAANEMAN is just not a word, we say the same very easily, but we come to know the meaning very later. So, tell me, have you got your meanings?

Breakups: Just the same story

Breakups: Just the same story

Modifications, justifications, sacrifices, offering everything you have, but perhaps relations ask for something else. Each time you think that now you have learned from all your old mistakes but each time, the things bounce back in new shapes. Perhaps this is the life, this is how people learn to be just like everyone and making them busy all over without any taste in life, just like everyone else, loosing all ambitions and emotions of ensureing their individuality.

Yes!! I am talking about breakups, why we loose people, we loved and cared from the innermost of our heart? Why they started to ignore or miss our feelings, when in a time, those were the prime importance for them? Why suddenly your all expectations started to be overambitious for them and became ruined, when one time they were ones to surprise you by their capability to catch up the things from between the lines? Why suddenly you come to feel yourself much emotional (even if you don’t want to show up) and they manage to be least emotional, while few days ago, things were on contrary? Lots of why’s na …..

We ask questions to ourselves and mind gave a lot bounced back to us with number of new questions that what I did wrong? When I managed to stay with all the time then what wrong if I expect the same? Questions are the same and tears are the same. We come to think that what we are doing, we come to hear people, who were already trying to suggest us a lot but we were ignoring. We try to make us busy; we try to make us alone and close shell and sometimes become vulnerable to others to grab the opportunity to get close to us, if we manage to be away then mind says that we are being scared and if just let it be as it comes then heart says that we are opportunistic.

Whatever …. A lot of suggestions to hold up the relations, a lot of suggestions to keep a balance between emotions and feasibility, but are they really work?

Some of you will complain that this time I am going through only one side of the conversation and some will come to say that I always do the same, but I just want to answer that I know who the audiences are and who want to read this all bullshit ….. so want to say things only for them.

If you are with my words even now then it does means that you have found yourself somewhere in these words. I know that everyone have a variety of definition about what is love and what one expect from a relation? Perhaps I want to remember the lines ….

“Tere dil mein meri sanso ko panaah mil jaye,

Tere ishq mein meri jaan fanaa ho jaye”

We just ask for this much only; our breaths may pass through the heart of our loved ones, so that he/she could feel us even when we don’t bother to make vibrations in the air by our words. We just ask for a shade to make ourselves melt down, when we get tired off only caring others and being the careless and rough dudes or babes with attitude. Does our eagerness to get this “panaah” supersede our ability to think and our key to win the toughest situations? We talk about even sacrificing our whole life over them but forgot that is really this one the all we could offer or our egos and expectations sometimes come to be even bigger than our lives?

Holding relations without any formal bonding in between, is something like drawing a more bigger line each day or after each week and once you failed to do so, you are not going to get more chances. Lots of movies, lots of daily soaps, lots of stories …. Whenever you will wish to say something very own, you found it already said. Its nothing like that your true words are unable to touch someone but probably people became practical for such things and call you stupid on expressing them. Then what to do …. ….. …

A lot of questions and confusing things but still not offering any solution, but really could you offer or could anyone else by just few words? Yes!! I am not offering any solution, but I wish that I was having one …… …….. ……..

Ban on Orkut?? Are you insane?

Again something moving completely against and out of logic and even then the one side is not getting proper attention, which made me back to write something again.

I am commenting on the newly started debates over the wrong message giving communities, especially through Orkut and not only debates and talk shows but even cases are started to be filed. The fundamentalist are with the arguments over communities like “We hate India”, “Call Girls from Mumbai” and so and so. There are also communities offending Indian holy God and Goddesses and yes, it is justified when you say that something should be done in regards to this, but A Ban???? No way ……

First let me present some facts about Orkut. Before Orkut and other such sites, the way to talk to people; whom you really never going to meet usually as they are very much away from you in distance or they are from very much different backgrounds or they belong to some other class of society or they might be belonging to some other country; was through messengers and chat rooms. But it was something very unstable; it was much easy to create a fake ID in minute and then login into some chat room to meet a new world, completely hiding your identity. It was never easy to trace someone, if offending or abusing in some public room. Ofcourse, the option to report someone abuse was there but practically that was not that effective. Moreover, at each login the crowd and the names in chat rooms were different, so people were tending to move into in initial days and then out with some IDs and then constrained within only those persons. It was sure spoiling the concept of an open world and was not enough to create a more reliable, stable world, in which you could meet some real persons, who might think about you selflessly and could provide a real positive and third person perspective about your problems.

So, websites like Orkut and Hi!! came in existence as answers to the loopholes in chat rooms and messenger services. Don’t compare it with dating sites like AdultFriendFinder as the motive and categories of both the sites are completely different from each other.

Orkut!! First of all, for moving into Orkut, you need a valid invitation from someone else and it will be kept in the database of Orkut and also the person, who has given you the invitation to join the community will be joined in you friend list. So, it was the initial phase. Now, let me tell you the things more categorically. The template of Orkut for presenting someone’s profile was much easier and also easy to maintain and day by day, it was changing for better and better and also with continuous removal of drawbacks. First of all, to get attention, one needs to make a profile, which will be having three sections; General information, professional information and then personal information. Although user is free to put only that information as he/she wishes, but even then it imposes a restriction as then your profile will not seem much attractive to others. Next phase is pictures, which is actually creating a problem for management purposes as well as creating problems like nude pics here too. But this (snaps) is sure one of the most prominent and honest way to attract people to you and also it is scientific fact that people remember faces more than names. So, definitely keeping pics in profile was justified, although it is sure a burden to web-space management of Google, who now owns this community.

The best feature of Orkut is its open scrapbook and completely accessible friend network, which guarantees that it is not that easy to create a fake identity and then being suddenly disappeared without leaving a trace behind you, as definitely, one’s friend network is likely to contain many real friends because as far as being friend is concerned then it is completely up to you. Watch someone’s acts and collect information about him/her from his/her social circle and then you could formally ask for friendship. Now as about open and accessible by anyone Scrap Book also presents a third person perspective of any user means a close view of the way of talking of some person and also a picture of that what other people think about the one as writing scraps to someone is like speaking in public and all this even before actually talking/chatting to the person. Definitely, it is much more reliable than ever.

Now, coming to more issues, Orkut is one site which is not supporting any kind of advertisements and also users are not allowed to post picture messages in open scrap books, they could only put pictures as display pics of their own identity or their community display pics.

As was the main issue of offending communities, then I think it is easier to encounter with nude pics and offers while surfing even Government and New sites, because of Spywares and Non-existence of any policy to stop such advertisements. Most of the time, Spywares sets cookies for them in your PC and then they will continue to come again and again, without you actually ask for them.

Anyway, I was moving to technical side, let me keep it simple. Like the real world, where it is always possible to get magazines and a lot of other adult material, how was it possible to keep it completely away from Net world and even from Orkut world.

Orkut has become such a large network, which contains students from each and every big institution and professionals from each and every big or small company (even if Orkut is banned in that company). If you are looking for some odd names as community then you should also check that there are communities from names almost all the big companies and institution, who are really providing the way to communicate between alumnae, batchmates and juniors. When in this world getting jobs and motivations for right side is getting rare and rarer, and then being at a place, where you could really come to meet much experienced and co-operating persons to consult about anything even before doing anything. Getting links in the industry was always a problem for everyone even if they were having one, then sometimes the changing contacts and fields were creating problems. Definitely traditional flaws like immature affections, addiction and habitual ignorance to the real world are here too but this could be said to be much mature form of conversation at the global level. I have found a lot of my seniors from very old batches working for big companies and many of them have provided my friends even shelters and supports in their cities and even in countries even on meeting for the very first time. In now days, when someone from professional courses got selected into Infosys then he/she first check for the profile in the Infosys community, so that could get in touch with some of them before actually joining or not joining them. Can’t people look at this positive side? As about bad things then really there are very few as the members of Orkut mostly are from educated youth from all over the world, so are much active in offending such nasty attempts and offending communities as soon as they got to know about them.

As about offending communities, then I, myself have seen even the honest attempt was getting tempered in these way, when some people started to use the popularity and coverage of Orkut as a medium to spread their products and thoughts means purely for business purposes. But it was really not that easy as Orkut provides you the way to make someone spam by just clicking a button. As about community, then I think for the first time, I encounter with a bad community three months ago, which was seriously offending “Goddess Durga”. As legal ways exists in the real world, there were ways too, I made the request spreading out to report this community and its owner as bogus and it worked. According to rules of Orkut, if more than 100 different users reports someone or some community bogus, then Orkut automatically removes that and this is really quick. After that I got similar message back to me about the community named “We Hate India”, whose most of the members were from Pakistan and one Hindu girl and a few Muslim boys from
India too. Definitely, it was an offending material and got the same fate means got deleted by Orkut, because of active participation of Orkut users to keep the place neat and clean.

I am afraid that because of popularity of Orkut, now Politicians and News Personals are pointing their guns to Orkut as they done in case of blogs few months ago. It is something like keeping females under curtains to keep them away from bad eyes or campaigning for banning Co-Education Institutions as they leads to love affairs. But it is not funny anymore.

The concept of banning blogs came from such a part of society, who was standing in favour of paintings of “Maqbool Fida Hussain” in the name of “Right to speak”. Definitely, blogs were a strong enough medium for professionals and intelligent students to express, when even Political Parties and TV-Channel were being suppressed from speaking anything against the issue, which was clearly looking to be completely out of logic but we were not having any power to do something as we have chosen the Government for five years and when after fighting to each other in most intense way in West Bengal, they come to join their hands to form the Government, then they are really not responsible or answerable to anyone. What a helpless crowd of much qualified students could do about it? Not all of them are in journalism and not all of them could take parts in ‘Dharanas’ and ‘Stirrs’, ofcourse, blogs are only medium to such crowd, who even on being right side and doing all hard works, feel helpless. What you could expect from News Channels and New Papers, when they are in either direct or indirect control of Government, because their dependency about license renewals and paper permits?

Anyway, I am again moving away from the main topic. Yes! Some bad elements are popping in Orkut too now and definitely it is likely to be increased more and more as now News Channels and Fundamentalist have moved in the way to publicize the few bad spots only on the almost perfectly clear white wall. But as like the real world, we have weapons against such things (like reporting them as bogus) and till yet, we have been using our rights in right ways.

In now days, Blogs and Orkut like sites came as the most prominent medium for highly qualified, undoubtedly talented and very judgmental youth of nation, so I request from Orkut Supporters to much much more active to avoid and restrict such activities and from Fundamentalist to keep their eyes away from us.

Definitely, there are a lot of things to speak but I know this is your time to speak, so I will wait for comments from reader’s side.

-:Kabhi Alvida Na Kahna; Is this not with you? :-

Kabhi Alvida Na Kahna

-:Kabhi Alvida Na Kahna; Is it not with you? :- Re-Modified again on 5th September 2006

A lot of hip-hop and blah blah, that’s why I am forced to write again after many days. Interestingly this time, it is not an issue like reservation or lowering value of parliamentary sessions, it is just a movie named Kabhi Alvida Na Kahana.

A lot of my friends have discussed about this movie and most of them were not satisfied with this movie, although at the same time, most of them were satisfied with Krrish, as after watching this movie you need not to think about the movie and there was no message with it, but with KANK they have the problem, because it has something, which makes them think, which makes them scared a bit.a

The allegations were like this; after introducing Valentine Day and Friendship Bands, now the party is coming to break the relations. Firstly, they were targeting youth and now they are targeting the marriages, Indian Culture and faith in personal relations. And most unfortunate is that they have a large audience and even if we condemned them very hard, they are going to make there destructive ideas to public in their ways and we are unable to anything.

Not only India but outside India, in Asia and Overseas, the comments are coming in the similar ways. In fact, I was a little scared about writing on the same as even my best friend was very angry on it although she was the greatest fan of SRK movies usually. Anyway, coming to the point, the movie, its feel and character.

The question is that what message this movie is giving to public? Is it to break their traditional relations just for the sake of their some fantasies created by such movies and literatures? Or to cheat the persons, who are very much devoted to you, and might be finding the ways to please you and you are finding the ways to come out of relations? Are they trying to give the bad image of Indian community and the new generations?

My answer is something different as usual. According to me, there was really no direct message for the mass, there was no solution but it was the presentation of situations and a raised question. Is this really far from our life? Is this really a movie for overseas mass and has no touch to our traditions? Why people are so scared that they are refusing that they even have watched the movie or watched only the first part? Why are they scaring others not to dare to watch the movie? A movie with Shahrukh, Abhishek, Priti and Rani; and ofcourse with their best acting performances and you say that the movie is the worst ever. Definitely there is something.

In almost each serial being telecasted on small screen, there are more than enough extra-marital affairs, but we knew that they have not that large audience, so we were ignoring till yet, but this time thing was scaring us.

Personally I found the movie excellent and giving the right kind of message with perfect presentation. A lot of movies have been on the same topic but in their presentations, there were some common points. They were showing the relations, in which one sides were a little wrong or just ignorant and the other side people getting into in these extra-martial affairs were feeling guilty and finally the story was ending with making them back to their original relations.

But this time, there was neither guilt feeling nor the happy (?) ending in traditional style. What the hell they are thinking to define? I am not coming to the conclusion that I have planned to write in the last part of the Article.

Ok! I am starting from the positive points of movie. It presents the best situations that you may loose your partner, even if you are always enough flexible to be changed to hold your partner tide up with you. How it could happen and why? We are watching movie and feeling that there were mistakes by Dev and Maya most of the time; they were looking out of their marriages not Rishi and Riya. But if we really think so then we will not be able to stop the things like this. It is reality and ignoring problems do not solve them. Find the solutions and think that could we do something more than that what Rishi or Riya did to save their marriages, to make their marriages succeed. Do we have no solutions really?

Dev; a person, who is highly emotional and want to be the best to help and care others and trying to spread joy and happiness all over, always smiling and making people smile, caring people even if they are just strangers. Do you know no one wants to care about others from inside; they do care for others because from somewhere inside, they need the same thing back to them. We try to be ideal to others so that may find someone, who may care for us and could feel us, when we are not saying anything and just smiling. Problem is that they attract people like Dev might have made Riya attracted towards him in his college life, which were impressed by their ways thinking that the person will take care of them. But answer me; was he looking for a person whom he could care of? There might be already many friend with whose problems he was already messing up not expecting anything back to him. Doesn’t he has the right to expect someone more caring for him, something rewarding his attitude towards life till yet?

The story started when Dev was already married from last five years. A final football match of Dev and a turning point of career for Riya. Dev missing her Riya, who I am sure was an active one in his matches in old days but not getting time now for the only visible thing that Dev likes. Riya missing her best friend, who was sure caring and encouraging in her old days for her career. Tell me who was mistaking? From these all things, most of us missed one thing, which was being felt by Dev, it was their wedding anniversary and what he got from Riya, just a last line of conversation saying “Anyway, Happy Anniversary, Dev” and then the phone was disconnected without hearing that what Dev might have planned for the day. A lot of people are making just another means of his shit. But just think that how come that man could miss the day, because when someone becomes happy then he relates it with all the good things happened at the same day. For him the moment was most precious and what he got just a casual wishing, even if she was not working just was coming after an interview and now was free and was going to pick her boy from school but the wish came in with an “Anyway” and that too was not expecting anything back to her. Was not that enough to make someone feel that she was trying to make him feel that only she cares and he forgot everything.

He gave her the biggest gift as much he was best capable to give, a five million contract, his dream, which was known by Riya too but there was no one to celebrate with him one of the best moment of his life, his anniversary and his dream day. But even this was not enough to make his feelings be cared by his love, if it was really love.

Just think about the man, who lost his leg and so career, when he was at the biggest turn of his career, a five millions contract. Do you know what that was meant to him? After that he was the leading one in his family and then he was for the first time about get the thing after which he was able to answer everyone about him and his career. Moreover after that there was a possibility to get his love back to him as probably then she will get time for him and his only child on whose birth, he was the happiest an on the earth. He was just wishing rights without caring the others as was knowing that he was already much caring. He just smiled with tears when Riya said that he hates his failure in life and almost explained everything what was in his mind with the thanks for letting him stay in her house. When he was saying that the biggest failure in that house was their own relation then it was not meant to say that this was due to Riya. When we say something with a smile on face and with only few not coming out tears in eyes, then it does mean that we are loosing hopes for anything. At that time no one could expect anything positive from that person as the one is unable to give anything to even himself. Dev was in same state, thinking a lot and reviewing a lot of things, loosing himself for making everything right according to Riya even if was at the cost of his own character which was the only ideal for him as he was even wishing to see the same character in her own son. Right then there was the last string of hope.

But ………

Maya; A girl who likes that someone make her feel that she has something, who likes that there should be someone, who may make her laugh without feeling embraced that what people will say. A girl, who used to be quiet all over and only thinking and thinking, but wont be like that all over. She just wants to live her own life as she watches in movies and novels. A girl who want to live with all the beauty of nature, want to feel each and everything that might be coming in a relationship. She is just tired of being cared and really wanted to make her life moving on her own ways. A girl, who lost her parent in her childhood and then were living with the help of Rishi and his father, started to teach little children as was thinking to be independent and as was not from any technical backgrounds because of money problems I think, so there was no other option than teaching. But she was always feeling that something is missing and she is not living a life as someone happy should live.

Three year; a total of three years were taken by her to say yes to marry Rishi. In which way she grown up, things are getting so obvious for her. Like it was looking obvious to everyone that she will marry Rishi and Rishi will propose her some day. She just hated to be so obvious but what option she was having? To refuse Rishi? Why? There was not any fault of him. Why she was not feeling that special thing for him? Everything was just like 2+2=4. She was asking for her own life, but it continued in the same way as her childhood was. She was not expected to be that much quiet; she wants to talk but feels her so constrained in everything. In straight way, she was never wishing that Rishi may fall in love with her, she was thinking to go much much away from Rishi and her father, not because she don’t like them but because she was thinking to live on her own. But she was not thinking to hurt them. It was a kind of Ehsaan feeling that was making herself away from her and she was getting inside and away from whole world, parties and friends, that’s why never tried to make friends from her side.

The best bad thing with her happened that she was not able to have child of her own. As much you will try to do not make her realize, she will find ways to feel the pain. She was wishing to be with someone, who has his own life and nature and who don’t really show her that he cares for her, just care from his inside and rest all the time, he might be behaving unserious and making her too. She just wanted to live life for world and without caring anyone. She did not like only cleaning as even Dev said her Wafadar Jamadar. But it was a way to make her busy and away of thoughts as she was always saying to herself that everything is fine. You are having a perfect loving husband, what else you need more?

Just think about the statement when she said that “Tum meri kis duniya ka hissa ho, Rishi” and he answered “Tum ghar saaf karma chahati thi”. Just think how disappointed she was as a clean house in not her priority at all, she was expecting something else which her partner may figure out on his own. Just think what she said to Dev at that raining day “Jo mujhe samajh sake, samajha sake, mere halaat pahchan sake”, everything of her was in those words. She was wishing to live an informal life, in which her partner might use abusive words about others means totally careless about her female existence and the best if he really care for her feelings from inside without expressing and always knowing when she is needing something. There was something, which was not even known to Maya herself that somehow she was now a teacher from her inside means one habitual of caring others not being cared. She was needed a careless partner not the one who care for her as according to her, she was just the perfect one to care someone, if given the chance. She was wishing to change her personality completely means wishing to be a part of the crowd but there was no way till she was with persons between whom she has grown up. I don’t know that she was right or not.

But ………

Rishi; He is really a character from every one of us, most of the viewers were having sympathy for him and sometime even I thought that one should. A boy, grown up with very much emotional, sentimental and understanding father. Someone who really know about the things and feelings. From the start of the life, he learned to take the responsibility and caring others as even having enough feeling and sense of responsibility towards him, his father was a bit away from traditional father. Rishi has seen a girl from his childhood and was always curious to know about her as much as possible but she was a mystery for him from all those years. Whenever he might have thought about love, only one name was coming in his eyes. He finally named his curiosity as the traditional one. He was thinking to care for her wife as much he could. But from the first day, she was abnormal for him, sometime he thought that he understand her, sometime, he thought he not.

When we like someone then sometime we talk with her that much which even she might not be knowing, as everything might be happening in our thoughts. We smile, laugh and cry in that world and pose our loved one as the best one doing everything, which we wish, he/ she actually should do. He was trying hard to get her and even then he was not getting her. Really, it is a troubling situation for me or anyone else, that what to do in this stage? One way is never talking to her on the same issue and always talking to her on various issues other than likeness of her and another way was to be away from her with happy smile without making her feel that she is doing something wrong to him.

But right now, even I am not sure that what was the right solution? The only mistake done by Rishi was that he was looking for the things which were just visible to him; perhaps he was not capable for looking the things in a complete perspective. He never come to understand that what exactly Maya was wishing for. He tried almost all the ways to show that he loves her but when the same words, even if they are much much true and sincere, come to someone’s way almost everyday, then they come to loose their feel and touch. There were the words, the touch but nothing was touching Maya’s heart. Although he was knowing that too and at his side, he tried his best to touch

But ………

Riya; I don’t know while presenting career oriented girls/boys, why the story writers come to be a bit rude. She started with her introduction with the words that “Meri personal life aur professional life dono alag alag hai”. Many smart and practical people will come to angry with me, if I comment something bad on her attitude. Perhaps I have something to say or I haven’t anything. She was sexy, confident and smartest or almost the best for her career. In fact, while making our career and professional works, it is obvious that we come to miss some responsibilities but there is blade edge balance between the things, don’t forget. She was just perfect for everyone except the one whom she loved most and because of her busy schedules, she never come to find the actual reasons but was just being irritated. Even if she was trying her hard but her smiles and nature which was outside was not inside her home. Yes! Dev was much more rude and irritating with her but was there no way else?

There are always two ways; one easy and one which may seem impossibly hard. Obviously, we come to choose the easy way most of the time, after failing many times from passing through the difficult way and this makes the difference between normal and great people. For her there were two ways, one way was to make her busy in a life where everyone was admiring her and the another way was trying to change the attitude of her partner, who was looking like a kind of being away from her.

She was just given up because she was not finding anything wrong from her side. She was thinking that her all best efforts are never going to make her husband realize that how much hard wok, she do to take care of the family and him, how much care she is showing to him in that way. She was thinking that when she is not only just more than average but almost the best for each one outside her home, then why everything was wrong, when she was coming back to home in every eve.. And when Dev needed her besides his all irritations, she was just giving up and was happy in making herself busy. Sure, people will have sympathy towards her and I am too.

She was even much much more reliable and honest towards the relations than all the three other characters but she was not wishful to express the same as was thinking that other side should understand, because that was the reason for which she loved Dev in the beginning as he was understanding without even hearing any words from her side. She just thought that his husband is jealous and is in complex. Yes! He was feeling complex, but she never got an effective way to remove that and even I am not sure that I could give any solution.

Her husband was just needing that sometime she may give time to him and family on the cost of career sometime. He was just some selfish for a while. He always knew that she is doing all the good things for him, but when he never expresses his other feelings, then why come he will express his admirations for her? His way was different to show his care and one of which was that five millions contract, which he come to loose unfortunately. Riya really tried hard but she was just loosing the end of string. She was a perfect one to be wife of almost anyone.

But ………

Do you know overall what the problem with everyone was? Everyone was trying to be the perfect and in relations, sometimes and in fact not sometimes, but every time, it is necessary to make the other side feel that he/she is perfect. And we do not need to show this by saying to them or caring to them but in a way, they could not realize that we were praising and admiring them. Winning someone’s heart is not so difficult and does not need a lot of literature kind of words nor the big and romantic surprises, it just need little things, which may make your breaths stopped for a while and heart beating. Understanding someone every time is never easy as human kind is always the lazy and no one wants to put his/her professional time into thinking, but do you think that it is really impossible to understand people?

Yes!! You loose yourself so many times in this battle to know someone but if you give up then you will never ever get the same thing back to you.

Above all the allegations against this movie, this is a best presentation of thoughts and situations and moreover with the best selection of culture and nature of characters. It was the first attempt to show that you may loose even if you are the best. It is the ground reality of breaking marriages in now days; never think that it is not with you.

A lot of questions and a lot of things, but note that I am not giving up. Really have a lot to say but all that will be only one side. So, need to hear from other people that where I am missing the things. See, I admit that even I could not live all the four characters, so can’t explain them completely, so yours comments are invited to make this discussion complete.

Reservation Protest: Could we really make it???


No, nothing, no crowd, silence …. the same bloody silence again and again.

We are dead, really we are dead, the same practical and smart peoples. No, I don’t hate, I just don’t … infact, I can’t. I feel pity, but on whom, I do not know.

Is it for me for just being a mere part of a helpless generation?

Is it on the people who are going for hunger strikes?

Is it for the people who are going on hunger/work strike and violence not knowing that they are not helping but spooling the whole sensation?

Is it for the people who are quiet because it does not affect them or even profit them.

We read books on revolutions, we read Bhagat singh, we watch Rang De Basnti and forget all. A sensation of moments and then after few minutes, we again became involved in our messengers, outlook, emails, orkut and blogs. We watch Rang De Basnti and discuss that the way in which people only find solutions in killing people is wrong. We discuss that in our lunches and after that we forgot that even today MIGs are continuously being crashed and no big enquiry or stir in media. What kind of sensation it is?

We just forgot that what was the purpose?Whispering in front of some friends do not make the campaigns, crying over a few persons never going to make any change. We just think that some people have moved in the ways to make the same issue alive and they will come in, if the things will knock their doors or someone will come to them to call them fro doing something. We feel foolish, if someone will see us being the part of some crowd. Our parents will think what? For what reason, we have came out of our homes, for studying na …., then let the students making protests, who are interested in politics, who are going to be affected. Just calculating that how much seats are remained for competition and think that we could make it even now. Keep thinking that we are OBC, so it is in our profit then why to go for the support of that irritating Brahmin crowd, again crying on some just another issue. No, nothing, no feeling, nothing will touch our hearts …….

Who are we? what could we do, if the whole media attentions, if all the violent and silent campaigns just making nothing? We keep on hoping and at the next day, someone gave a comment like he has the right to define our destiny. Five years!! he know it and also know that we think of nothing so longer. Analysis of words, 24 hours channels predicting the statements and options and we got the same rubbish on each issue and noting really make us feel.Shame on us, we may go for forwards, might only be mailing for the whole day, we have the time to read stupid SMSs, going for discussion on girlfriends/boyfriends, but have not time to read something because everything look like the same and we feel no solutions. Yes! really there is not one, there is nothing, all over dark, if we don’t have the time to only write some lines of support on a few attempts, articles then we think we could make a change coming to us?

Keep forgetting things, keep moroning, keep voting for the same morons who do not even get one from the whole country to lead them and forcing us top accept the same, keep thinking the same moron as our future leader, whose all statements are calculated and he talks in predefined ways. Just keep guessing that they will say something against the things, they themselves have planned. Just joking …. one goes to Haward and came back without a single degree and enjoy his right from his birth to lead the youth and things just pose them as …….. we could do nothing, not even reading an article in once, in whole.

I do not claim that I am something or not a part of the same crowd. Same deadlines of work, projects,assignments, OTs, ENTs, same changing of proxies because messenger is not working, same searches on Google, have not someone done something on the same projects? I am no more special, really no one, who could be really affected. One, who has a brother in HAL and other one UP topper and he, himself working very well. Really nothing could affect, nothing should. Do not even have few minutes more to read that what someone give as answer even if someone do.

Hating myself like those boys which are even protesting at this moment and feeling ourselves alone and helpless. I will scream at top of my throats and will go to sleep just after coming back from office, every morning will be the same, every paper and channel will say the same, nothing will change here, nothing ……

I hate myself in so much helpless pose, just only thing I could do, as the protests are dying, is ……………

Will you not even comment on?